Expect politesse to fly out the window if in-flight cellphones are cleared. Associated Press
If cellphone calling comes to airplanes, it is likely to be the last call for manners.
If cellphone calling comes to airplanes, will it be the death of good manners? Etiquette experts who already are fuming over the proliferation of digital rudeness aren't optimistic. Ryan Knutson reports. Photo: AP.
The prospect is still down the road a bit, and a good percentage of the population can be counted on to be polite. But etiquette experts who already are fuming over the proliferation of digital rudeness aren't optimistic.
Jodi R.R. Smith, owner of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting in Massachusetts, says the biggest problem is forced proximity. It is hard to be discreet when just inches separate passengers. And it isn't possible to escape.
"If I'm on an airplane, and my seatmate starts making a phone call, there's not a lot of places I can go," she says.
Should the Federal Communications Commission allow cellphone calls on airplanes above 10,000 feet, and if the airlines get on board, one solution would be to create yakking and non-yakking sections of aircraft, or designate flights for either the chatty or the taciturn, as airlines used to do for smoking.
Barring such plans, there are four things you should consider before placing a phone call on an airplane, Ms. Smith says:
• Will you disturb those around you?
• Will you be ignoring companions you should be paying attention to?
• Will you be discussing confidential topics?
• Is it an emergency?
The answer to the last question needs to be "Yes," she says, and even then, make the call brief.
"I find that the vast majority of people will get it," she says. "It's just the few that don't who will make life uncomfortable for the rest of us."
FCC Chairman Tom Wheeler said last week that there is no technical reason to maintain what has been a long-standing ban.
            
Airlines are approaching the issue cautiously because many customers have expressed strong feelings against cellphone use.
"I believe fistfights at 39,000 feet would become common place," says Alan Smith, a frequent flier from El Dorado Hills, Calif. "I would be terrified that some very large fellow, after a few drinks, would beat up a passenger annoying him by using the phone."
Minneapolis etiquette consultant Gretchen Ditto says cellphone use likely will become commonplace on planes since our expectations have changed about when people should be reachable.
Passengers will feel obliged to answer calls, she says. "It's going to become more prevalent for returning phone calls, and it's going to be more annoying to everybody."
Electronic devices are taking over our lives, says Arden Clise, an etiquette expert in Seattle. We text during romantic dinners, answer email during meetings and shop online during Thanksgiving. Making a call on a plane is only marginally more rude.
"Are we saying that our tools are more important than the people in front of us?" she asks. Even if you don't know your in-flight neighbor, ask yourself, "Do I want to be that annoying person," Ms. Clise says.
If airlines decide to allow calls, punching someone's lights out clearly wouldn't be the best way to get some peace, says New Jersey etiquette consultant Mary Harris. But tensions often run high during flights, and fights could happen.
If someone is bothering you with a phone call, Ms. Harris advises asking politely for the person to end the conversation.
If that doesn't work, you're stuck.
In-flight cellphone calls have been possible in Europe for several years. But U.K. etiquette expert William Hanson says they haven't caught on.
If you need to make a call, he advises leaving your seat for the area near the lavatory or door. If it is night and the lights are dimmed, "you should not make a call at your seat," he says.

Calls used to be possible on U.S. flights using Airfone units installed on the planes, but the technology never became popular. When people made calls, they were usually brief, in part because they cost $2 a minute, says Tony Lent, a telecommunication consultant in Detroit who worked on Airfone products in the 1980s.
The situation might be different today. "People were much more prudent about using their mobile phones," Mr. Lent says. "Nowadays, those social mores are gone."
Several years ago, when the government considered lifting its cellphone ban, U.S. Rep. Tom Petri co-sponsored the Halting Airplane Noise to Give Us Peace Act of 2008. The bill would have allowed texting and other data applications but banned voice calls. He was motivated by "a sense of courtesy," he says. The bill was never brought to a vote.
Mr. Petri says he will try again if the FCC allows calls this time around. What if his bill doesn't pass? "I suppose you can get earplugs," he says.
A rude cellphone call wouldn't be as bad as the in-flight faux pas witnessed by Ms. Smith, the etiquette consultant, a couple of years ago on a flight from Boston to Los Angeles. Her seatmate was "watching a pornographic film," she says.
"That was more disturbing to me than anything else," she says.
It could have been worse, Ms. Smith says. "He had his headphones on, so I couldn't hear anything, at least."